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Social Anxiety Stigma & Misconceptions

  Source: Buoy Health Much like with introversion, social anxiety is something that receives a lot of stigma and misconceptions, doubtless because people with either of these are not conforming to certain standards and expectations of society. An important part of this is the definitions getting mixed up, because while of course both social anxiety and introversion may share a few things in common, such as not wanting to participate in certain social situations or contexts, they are very much two separate things. Social Anxiety is a mental health condition that involves a fear or discomfort of certain social situations, while Introversion is a personality trait that involves preferring solitude to the company of many people, and gains more energy from the inner-world of thoughts and feelings as opposed to the outer-world of other people. Introversion is not a fear or phobia, but rather a natural trait, preference and lifestyle of solitude or smaller groups to the company of many pe...
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Common Myths about Introversion

  Source: VeryWellMind In Western Society, especially in American culture but also the UK (which let’s face it is often attempts to emulate American culture) introverts are seen as being “a concern” and “a problem”, while extroverts are often held in high esteem, with an extrovert being seen as the “ideal” and “default” way to be, and that extroverts can indeed be more successful socially and professionally. Introverts are seen as being “not social enough” and “too reclusive” among many other negative traits. Even when you google the definition of an introvert, the first thing that comes up in Google is “a shy and reticent person”, although the real definition is “an individual who has a preference for the inner world of thoughts and feelings as opposed to the outer world of socialising with other people” ( Psychology Today , N.D). I have to be honest, the many misconceptions about introversion have often exasperated me to no end, because of just how inaccurate and misinformed ...

Book Review: The Quiet You Carry by Nikki Barthelmess

  RATING: 3.5 out of 5 stars This was a really gripping and compelling read I must say, and the portrayal of the adverse experiences and trauma that those in the care system can go through for instance due to abusive parents, in Victoria's case her own blood father sexually abusing her, was very intense and heavy. This along with the serious impacts it can have on their mental health, which is depicted very heavily and intensely through Jamie, Victoria's foster sister. Honestly it was all very intense and heavy and not at all an easy theme to write about and depict, so I very much command that. You can't help but feel so strongly for poor Victoria as well, with the endless trauma she's had to experience, having her own father sexually abuse her, being thrown out of the house by him after that at 3am on a winters morning, then being accused of being the one at fault, then taken away by the CPS who are very brusque and cold with her, being made to sleep in the CPS office,...

Book Review: No One's Girl by Rosie Goodwin

Rating: 4 out of 5 stars Whew! That was a very difficult, heart-wrenching and intense read, to the point that while books are usually meant as an escape, I found myself needing an escape from this book and kind of wish I'd never read it now! It was so hard and painful to read, with just how dark and distressing it was, but nevertheless very compelling and most of all heartwarming! Seeing the way Jane and Alice had both endured similar adversities, namely abuse from their fathers, and how they were brought together and connected the way they did was very fascinating and beautifully done. It was amazing seeing both their character developments, which was largely a result of the bond they formed with each other. I really liked seeing the way Jane developed as a character and how she came to love Alice, and it was incredibly heartwarming seeing that after having suffered severe emotional abuse from her father and never having had a loving home, with her father having abandoned her, and...

Book Review: Our Sweet Violet by Rosie Goodwin

  RATING: 4 out of 5 stars WARNING: REVIEW CONTAINS POSSIBLE SPOILERS AHEAD. TRIGGER WARNING: STORY INCLUDES SCENES OF RAPE AND HARASSMENT Yet another very compelling, heartwarming and gripping read of historical fiction from Rosie Goodwin that I could simply not put down and finished within a matter of days. I think out of all the Flower Girls books , this has probably got to be my favourite out of the series. I get the feeling that the author had received feedback about her first flower girl book ( Our Fair Lily ) about the protagonist being too one-dimensional and too much of a Mary Sue and used that feedback to redeem herself with this book, as I can safely say that Violet was very far from the Mary Sue, perfect protagonist of Our Fair Lily. Instead, she was a very interesting, three-dimensional character, as while she is still lovely and kind, she still has her flaws such as making wrong and unfair judgements of people and being unfairly stand-offish with them, as well as ac...

Book Review: Our Dear Daisy by Rosie Goodwin

RATING: 4.5 out of 5 stars TRIGGER WARNING: Detailed rape scene and physical abuse Wow. What an intense read, and certainly a most gripping and engrossing one, having finished this one in a matter of days. I definitely preferred it to "Our Fair Lily" with Daisy having been a far more relatable protagonist in that she wasn't a major Mary Sue, so I was really glad to see that, and was also not quite as unrealistic. You honestly feel like you are living this story with her as you feel you experience the unbearable adversity and trauma she suffers, as I felt so terrified and distressed for her when she'd gotten raped by her evil stepbrother and then shortly after gets tricked into going to an Irish mother and daughter home by said evil stepbrother where she has to endure the nuns cruel treatment while also witnessing their cruel treatment of other girls at the home. It was so dark and distressing and it was a really dark, sudden turn after seeing how happy life had been f...

Book Review: The Introvert's Way: LIVING A QUIET LIFE IN A NOISY WORLD by Sophie Dembling

  Rating: 3.5 out of 5 stars I really appreciate how this addressed the unnecessary stigma that introverts receive, particularly in american culture but also to a slightly lesser extent in the UK (which essentially copies america's culture), with introverts always being seen as a "problem" by society and told to be "more extroverted". I know how sick to death I am and how much it infuriates me when seeing articles and books that say "How introverts can become more extroverted/a people person", essentially telling us that our introversion is something that needs fixing and that we can't be ourselves, undermining the very concept of self-acceptance. It really did touch upon some interesting points that I know resonated with me quite a lot. However, it did just annoy me a bit when it said in one chapter that she can understand why introverts can come across as being "a bit of a bitch" to some people (female ones at least). I do not like this...